be willing to be the wind beneath his wings

How to be an awesome wife: Be willing to be the wind beneath his wings

March 14, 2016 0 Comments

Day 3: Be willing to be the wind beneath his wings.

I know my title (and subsequent song) is super cheesy, but it’s really the best way to say that we need to be supportive of our husbands regardless of how silly, unobtainable, expensive, stupid even it may sound. We are to be supportive of our husbands.

My husband has a dream job. He’s been dreaming of this job practically his entire life. Now this job Is hard to get, hard to keep and hard to maintain any type of normal family life. But this is his dream job. And it is my job to be supportive. Now I have an inkling that this dream job probably might not happen. It would require moving, long stints away from home, long educational classes that require tests and homework and still, at the end of those years of training, isn’t guaranteed a full-time job. But, it’s his dream job. So how does a wife be supportive of something that she 1) doesn’t think will happen, 2) is silly, 3) isn’t the best for the family and so on. We are honest, loving, and let them chase their dreams.

I had many a talk with my husband about his dream job. A lot of what I said went like this, “You know I love you and will follow you anywhere. But we would have to move for a few years and live somewhere that we both hate. We would also have to uproot the kids and start all over again. I just want you to contemplate that. Again, you know I love you, support you and will follow you anywhere. Just an FYI.”

We still have yet to be sure what he will do one way or the other. It could be quite some time before we figure that out, but my job is to not worry about it. My job is to encourage and not push him to make a decision quickly.

Proverbs 31:10-12 “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.”

Does your husband trust you enough to tell you his secrets? Can he safely share his hope and dreams without recourse? Do you support his secrets and dreams?

1 Timothy 3:11 “Their wives likewise must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded, faithful in all things.”

Do you treat your husband with dignity? Do you support your husband? Can you speak the truth in love? Or perhaps bite your tongue until he has more time to mull over a decision. I know this is so violently contrary to what society tells us we need to be. We don’t have to get our way. We don’t have to be heard or understood in a big decision. We must remember that we, as wives, are second. Christ is the priority in your husband’s life (or should be, just like Christ should be more important than our husbands). Christ is NOT required to tell us what’s going on or give us an opinion on the important issues in life. Our job is to support our husbands, to be the wind beneath his wings. To encourage him, love him, and be his rock and sounding board.

Wives, be willing to be the wind beneath his wings.


Nila Rhoades